This isn't run-of-the-mill pushback you're seeing...
your toddler is scared to pee or poop in the potty.
She won't pee until she is in a diaper for nap or night time. She's so upset after she poops.
He's never gone poop in the potty. And it's been 6 months now.
STRAIGHT FROM MY INBOX,
I HEAR THIS FROM PARENTS:
And I’m sure you’ve tried ALL the rewards and positive encouragement. That doesn’t flip a child who’s withholding poop or withholding pee in an intense way.
Let´s get you out of this withholding tunnel of drama.
YOU WANT THIS:
Your child to be able to release their pee in the potty.
Your child can sit and release poop on a potty — rather than poops smushed against the bum in a diaper or underwear (yikes!).
You want your child to be able to poop regularly. You may have tried Miralax, but your child can still hold it for a few days.
And you want a better transition to preschool (maybe your child does great, except for the poops in the pants at school.)
BUT YOU´RE DEALING WITH:
You're seeing your child throw a fit when they feel the pee or need to poop.
You don’t know what to do that won’t cause a power struggle or more anxiety in your child.
If you prompt your child, you see more meltdowns.
And what if the withholding keeps happening, after rediapering...and you're seeing the same thing happen again?
Ready to help your child release the pee or poop in the potty?
INTRODUCING...
The Withholding Plan
for pee + poop
Sure, you could try to stitch together a podcast, a couple blog posts, and a few Reddit threads to cobble together a plan that may or may not work.
But if that means more days of drama as your child melts down in discomfort from holding so long, more poopy undies to clean post-bedtime, or rising anxiety in you because you don’t know what to do…
That's when it's time to bring in a potty training consultant.
The distress and drama, the withholding behaviors, the pattern getting worse over time as you start losing your patience…
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...I see this in my client work, regularly. And I know you're doing the best you can to help your sweet toddler.
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There are ways out of the withholding drama! You can get to a place where you're not thinking about poop all day.
Let's team up!
MEET YOUR POTTY TRAINING CONSULTANT
I´M JEN. AND I'M SO GLAD YOU´RE HERE
Thinking the right reward will fix withholding?
I've heard of every reward imaginable. Even an offer of a puppy doesn't help when the child is withholding.
Re-diaper until your child is *ready* makes sense. But how is that going...problem solved?
I'm hearing from more and more parents of 4- and 5-year-olds who tried the waiting tactic...and their kids are still terrified to release pee or poop out of the pull-ups.
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Psst: you don’t age out of an anxiety.
That’s why withholding sticks around.
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“Nothing could’ve prepared me for how hard reversing withholding would be with my 2.5 year old.
Like many other parents in this situation I had tried everything possible to get my child to poo in the potty. From multiple doctors and paediatricians to potty training experts, 3 different potty training workshops and poo problems courses and scouring every online resource I could find. Role playing with toys, potty toys, glitter and just leaving it be, you name it - I tried it. Eventually I stumbled across a podcast from Jamie and looked up Oh Crap Potty Training on Instagram.
There I found Jen. This is when everything changed.
By the time she got to me I’d had 6 months of withholding, and the situation had escalated to poo and pee withholding and a severe fear of public toilets. I was totally emotionally drained and lost.
Jen provided clear instructions, the service she provided is exceptional.
She provided links to products, comprehensive working documents and ongoing support. And when I was down and discouraged she provided sturdy support and practical tips. To any parents of withholders…. Don’t wait, get her on your team and you’ll see the other side of this. I’ll never forget this chapter of parenthood but also the significance of not giving up, finding the right team and listening to my gut.”
- RACHEL
How on earth do you help your child release the pee or poop?...
By now, you're losing your mind.
It's not easy to see your little love bug in alarming distress when you know releasing the pee and poop would help them feel better.
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No matter what you try, you’re seeing no pee, no poop…just stuck in a hard place with a lot of big feelings. Total nightmare.
You’re not alone.
I’ve seen this issue in my client work, regularly for years. It’s the bulk of my work as a potty training consultant. So much so, that I decided to create this special Withholding Plan for Pee and Poop.
After helping so many parents through it, I have a good sense of how much handholding support parents need to understand what to do and work through the solutions.
You can’t lead your child through something they’re anxious about when you're overwhelmed. You’ll need to lend your confidence.
That’s tough to lead your child through this anxiety to release pee/poop if you don’t know what to do.
That’s where I come in to give you the play-by-play, the whys, the common pitfalls to avoid, and the plan I’ve seen work through these withholding poop and pee struggles.
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BUT WHAT EXACTLY IS THE WITHHOLDING PACKAGE?
I´m so glad you asked, let´s break it down...
This consultation plan came together organically.
As the withholding problems have escalated.
As more of my clients have asked for a boost of support.
Tired of struggling with withholding in potty training your toddler?
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Anxiety to release pee or poop in the potty is physical. Meaning those sticker charts won't do anything to flip a child's fear to release in the potty.
Let’s help your child feel the relief of releasing pee and poop out of a diaper (after holding it in too long.)
And I’m sure you’ve tried all the words and encouragement to help your child. This is not on you.
Withholding can happen across ages (withholding can even pre-date potty training!).
Withholding can come out even when the parents are being super chill and not pressuring their toddler.
Let’s team up to work through the withholding issues!