Hoping Potty Training Will Click? (You Need to Slow Down)


Inside: To help potty training click, here's an important way to look at the potty training process.


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Do you know the Zany Zoo toy? It’s that interactive wooden box topped with beads that slide around on wires, and below, colorful animals play peek-a-boo behind closed doors.


My daughter loved her Zany Zoo.


Once she was crawling around, she started to hide little toys in the top of her Zany Zoo. It became a running joke. We would sometimes even hide a different toy in there, and see if she’d notice. She always did! And would promptly toss it out of her Zoo.


When you’re in that phase of life when your little ones are infants or just starting to toddle around, you know these weird and quirky details about what they love to do when they play.


Then somewhere along the way, things shift.


And you’re not observing and watching your toddler in the same intense way you were when they were so wee.


You’re not staring at their every move. That is, until potty training comes around..


Potty training clicks when you slow down

The first couple days of potty training will feel a lot different than your usual days with your toddler. And that's not just because your toddler will be hanging around bottomless or because you won't be changing poopy diapers.


It's because you'll be observing your child in a way you probably haven't since your child was really little, back when you spent so much time staring at their every move.


With potty training, you're spending a window of time teaching your child a big new skill.


A skill that will greatly impact your child's inner confidence. Your toddler will feel so big!


And the main key to success is time.


Consistency always wins with toddlers and it will take a while for the sequence of using the potty and the process to *click* in your child's head, much like the toddler shape-sorter toy.



Linear isn't linear for toddlers, much like when a puzzle or shape-sorter toy clicks.


Time is also what can trip up the process.

Related: Let me tell you about this book that has nothing to do with potty training. And has everything to do with potty training. The book is Chasing Slow by Erin Loechner (I'm not being paid for a review though there is an affiliate link). This book is wrapped up in all the contradictions we face as parents.


It's a good read that really helps you jump into potty training with the right mindset.


You don't have to be a minimalist, or live somewhere seemingly slow to relate to this book. It's a rare book that applies to everyone, especially all mamas.



Potty training forces you to unplug and slow down for a few days.


Because most of us feel like we're chasing our days for more time.


And that really relates to the early days of potty training.


Here's one of my favorite passages that Erin shares in Chasing Slow:

I used to think the opposite of control was chaos. But it's not. The opposite of control is surrender.

Surrender is harder than control for most of us. We're great at following our Google Calendar alerts and timing our guacamole to be ready to top the fish tacos.


It's not so easy to surrender expectations.